You should also avoid caffeine and nicotine before sex, since both of these drugs constrict blood vessels, which can increase erection problems.

On the other hand, too much alcohol can cause erectile dysfunction. A little alcohol can relax you and may enhance your sexual experience, and that can be good for erectile dysfunction.

Watch what - and how much - you drink.

Try taking a hot shower together before sex to get relaxed and get your blood flowing better. If your room is too cold or you can't get comfortable in bed, you will have a harder time sustaining good blood flow and maintaining an erection. Don't rush into sex or try to have sex when you are overtired or anxious,' says Dr. 'Choose a place and time to have sex where you can feel relaxed and unhurried. For many men with erectile dysfunction, a mutual form of masturbation may be easier and more pleasurable than traditional sexual intercourse.' 'Use your fingers, your mouth - use your imagination. 'There are lots of other ways that a man can achieve an orgasm and give his partner an orgasm without using his penis,' advises Schnarch. The following tips may improve the experience for both of you: The best advice on sexual positions is to use common sense and find positions that are comfortable for you and your partner. 'If you don't approach erectile dysfunction as an opportunity to get beyond the idea of sex as a performance and start to work on more important aspects of sex like desire and intimacy, the sex position you choose is not going to matter very much,' Schnarch says. Schnarch believes that how you adjust your emotional attitude about sex is much more important than the sex position you choose. However, actual studies that measured blood flow and heart rate during intercourse did not find this position to be any better than others. Traditionally, doctors concerned about blood flow during sexual intercourse have recommended a sex position with the woman on top. 'I don't know of any studies that show one sex position is better than another, but it would make sense that a sex position that uses a lot of your big muscles and requires a lot of acrobatics will require more blood flow and could take away blood from your erection.' 'Physically, having a successful erection is about getting a good blood supply to the penis,' says Michael Feloney, MD, urologic surgeon and expert on sexual dysfunction issues at the Nebraska Medical Center in Omaha. Don't become afraid of what you might fail at.'

'You can't be successful all the time at sex, but that doesn't mean you just roll over and give up.

'Sexual function in men starts to decline at about age 40, not at age 70,' says David Schnarch, PhD, clinical psychologist, certified sex therapist, and best-selling author of Intimacy & Desire. If you’re having trouble more than half the time, you should talk to your doctor about treatment options for impotence. If you have trouble getting or maintaining an erection less than one in five times, it is probably nothing to get too upset about. The likelihood of ED increases with age and it can result from both psychological and physical causes. Erectile dysfunction is common and not necessarily abnormal.

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